Can't go for That

  Maybe men know what I'm doing on here or I have a sign on me that I can't see that says bring me your crazy, your mentally challenged and all around unsavory . So new years eve , I met a guy. He seemed nice I guess. In any event he said the right things that made me at least give him my number. That's no easy feat . So he left the party with the group of friends he was with and that was that . The one thing I do remember although I gave him my number I was somewhat ambivalent about speaking to him again . Seconds later, I hear yelling in the hallway . I forgot to mention I was at a house party .  In any event , I hear yelling. One of my friends (the one who threw the party ) comes into the apartment saying that the guy I gave my phone number to peed in her stair case . 

Yes you read correctly peed in her staircase . It's not like she lived in NYCHA where that practice is commonplace . She lives in a nice building and regardless to that , even if she didn't , that's pretty gross. 

I figured I would never hear from him again..... I was wrong . I got a text from him recently . At first I did not know who it was plus his name is super common . So he stated where he knew me from . Then I said ( because I have little tact) oh your the guy who peed in the staircase . He proceeded to apologize and express his embarrassment . The funny thing is that I couldn't remember anything about him other than he pees on the stairs. 

I asked him what he did for a living and he said construction . He then asked me what I do . I told him and he said I went to a school where a lot of the kids had social workers . He proceeded to tell me that everyone had a worker but him and the only reason he was there was because he went to other peoples classes . Needles to say he was lying . 

I told him that he was telling me half a story and cut him off . What he didn't know was that o am familiar with the school he was talking about and what he said could not be true. I don't like lies. Starting that way is a good way for me to run away. Can't go for that . 

Patience is a Name not My Virtue

If you know anything about pop culture , you know that line from "big pimpin" . If not it says, " I got no passion , no patience and I hate waiting" . That's me when it comes to most things . I can't . I hate to wait especially when it comes to the opposite sex . I believe that to have a long lasting relationship you need patience .  Lately I have been working on it but when I think back on the past and things I can honestly say that I have had minimal patience . I spent most of my time dwelling in my own feelings and not talking about them . Now it feels good to say"I don't take no crap" and really mean it  but hey, truth be told we all come with some type of luggage . Not just from our relationships it comes from all our experiences . That being said, you won't always get along with or agree with your significant other . I had to learn that if I expect someone to deal with my shenanigans , I should do the same and compromise.   Now I'm not by all means saying sit and wait for someone to "change" when it's clear they won't but I'm saying it's ok to shut up sometimes and or meet someone half way .